Hurray! We had a massive storm here in California yesterday and it looks as though we’ll have great snow for our ski trip to Mammoth this weekend.
I’ve only been skiing for a few years and as it’s a sport I’ve learnt with my sensible head rather than a young, who cares if I get hurt attitude, I get so annoyed at myself for not being a very good skier.
At school I was one of those annoying people that could play every sport, would captain sports teams and throw myself into every game with great gusto.
So, here I am now trying to learn and perfect a sport that I struggle with. It’s all in my head. I know what to do. I just spend my time worrying that I’m going to go to fast, lose control and hurt myself.
It’s also a strange sport in that, just as I’m getting back into it and getting my speed up, all the snow goes away and that’s it for another year. Or I get the hang of the conditions and then we have a massive snowfall and everything changes, or there’s no snowfall whatsoever and the slopes freeze.
My worst problem is the fact that we all ski as a family. I spend my entire time coming down the slopes looking for everyone else. My 10-year-old son charges ahead and I stress out that I’m going to lose him. He spends his time looking for bumps to jump over or trees to weave in and out of. We’ve since decided he needs to take a mobile phone with him for safety so that he can do his daredevil things and meet us at the bottom. It’s also very irritating to have a 10 year old ask why you were going so slowly. He stands there waiting for you with a look of sheer boredom resonating through his goggles.

Meanwhile my youngest son has been learning how to snowboard, he’s a bit slower so I try not to get too far ahead but still give him enough space and encouragement that he’ll pick up his speed. Add into the fact that Danny’s flying all over the place, additional skiers and snowboarders to think about – my head can’t cope with it all and my speed slows down to a very irritating dawdle down the slopes.
I’m like a mother duck, dashing all over the slopes trying to make sure everyone is safe and secure and following the correct way down to the ski lift.
What I need to do is be completely selfish and just hurl myself down the mountain and hope everyone meets up at the lift as agreed at the top of the mountain. And hope that I don’t break a leg so that I can still do the school run the following week.
I just can’t do that. I’m a Mum. I need to make sure everyone is where they need to be and safe. But that means I’m not a good skier. I need to leave my mumminess behind and find my inner skier. I have to forget what’s in my head and attack the slopes
That’s the challenge I’ve set for myself this ski season. I’ll let you know how I get on. I hope I can type with a broken arm but at least my son won’t glare at me with boredom.

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Lorna, you’re not a bad skier, you just are experiencing a very common reaction – many women have it. last year, I wrote an article about women’s ski camps that you should read: (http://www.travelmuse.com/articles/skiing/ski-camps-for-women)
You might consider booking one of your next mammoth trips (or Utah trips too! i do the women’s wednesday 4 week clinic at brighton but I don’t think that will work for you, lol!) to conincide with the women’s ski camp next one at Mammoth is in Feb:
http://www.mammothmountain.com/MountainActivities/SkiandSnowboardSchool/Camps/
I guarantee it will be the confidence builder you need! once you have more confidence in your skills, you’ll get over the fear… and unfortunately, the fear thing is more likely to contribute to getting hurt.. not your lack of skills!
You have described our famiy skiing holidays perfectly. I solved the problem by re-jigging the maths.
Instead of Good Mum = Bad Skier
I dumped the goodness out of Mum. I became incredibly selfish on the slopes. Anyway there wasn’t much minding I could do since I wasn’t keeping up with anyone! My three boys fended for themselves and they minded me. Kind of role reversal!
Bad Mum became a much better skier.
Bad Mum became a much happier skier, and
Bad Mum made for very caring children!
I love to ski. And that is precisely why we put my son in lessons (my daughter stays with non-skiing granny in the hotel). I hope you find your inner eagle, because there is no better feeling in the world!
I kind of missed out on the skiing thing even though we lived in Salt Lake City for 3 winters. When we arrived we were told we had to do two things…buy an SUV and learn to ski. The first season I did atttempt to learn but never quite got over the fear of my feet being attached to two very long sticks on top of a very slippery mountain plus my thighs never were very strong…a must for a good skier! The second season I was pregnant so never saw the slopes and the third season I was still nursing a very hungry and finicky baby. Then we left and to be perfectly honest I an very happy I do not live in the snow and ice regardless of Utah having the best snow in the world.
I love skiing but didn’t start until I was 21 – in general the only people I know who are really good skiers, like my husband, started as children. I think you must gain a kind of confidence and fearlessness as a child that you never really have as an adult. I am competent but nervous, especially in icy conditions, and sure that once the boys start skiing properly I will always be the last one down the hill!
I adore skiing and can’t wait until the boys get old enough to race down the hill with. I love the buzz of it and the feeling of the body working properly (when it is actually working and I am actually skiing). We are taking them this year again, so hopefully they will get the bug to. The eldest is quite keen but the youngest doesn’t like snow. Hmmm, this could be interesting!
hello, I just found your blog, I’m also a Brit living in California.
I think you’re right about just going for it with the skiing. I learned when I was in my early 20’s and my eldest daughter (almost 4) will start this year. A couple of hours private lesson with a good instructor is invaluable. And falling a few times isn’t a bad thing. My husbands adage is “if you’re not falling, you’re not learning” This has admittedly led to some horrible rows, as I attempted to get down some black diamond run he led me onto!
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